The Psychology Of Fitness

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Quick Tip # 10 ~ Don’t Have a “Dirty Mouth”

Quick Tip # 10 ~ Don’t Have a “Dirty Mouth”

There is one word that I consider the most “dirty” word in the English language.  This word has four letters, starts with a ‘C’ and ends with ‘NT.’  Although there’s a word that many people consider very “dirty” that has the same amount of letters and only changes one letter, I believe that this word is worse.

Of all the things I hear in the gym, this word is the one that will draw more ire from me than any other.  So what is this word?

Can’t – I “can’t” do it.

The thing I hate the most about this word is that at least half of the time the person saying they “can’t” do the exercise is saying it while actually doing the exercise.

Too often, can’t is misused. Instead of can’t, the person should be telling me the truth – “I really don’t want to do this exercise,” or, “This workout is hard and I don’t want to work hard.”  If they tell me that, at least if they’ll be telling me the truth.  I can respect them for that but “can’t” is usually nothing but an excuse.

An excuse for being lazy.  An excuse for not wanting to push past their comfort zone.  An excuse to stay stagnate in their life.  An excuse to stop trying.  An excuse that allows them to not feel bad about not putting forth their max effort.

Maybe people aren’t accustomed to working hard.  Maybe some people think that all of life is going to be ‘easy’ including, but not limited to, exercise.  Maybe they’ve been brainwashed into believing that like dieting, fat loss is “easy.”  Maybe I’m wrong on all of these points.  I don’t know.

What I am sure of though, is that at the end of the day, it’s the people pushing past their “can’ts” that I see succeeding in any endeavor that they take on – while the people that are trapped by their “can’ts” stay stagnate, year after year.  And that to me is absolutely disgusting.

Most of your “can’t” statements are beliefs – not facts.  Learn to separate the facts from your individual myths (aka, beliefs) and stop having such a “dirty mouth.” 😉

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