Quick Tip #9 ~ Universal vs Specific
People sometimes internalize a “mistake” or “lack of willpower” as a universal belief about themselves. Instead of using a “universal” explanation for your mistake, see it as a specific issue (even if the ‘issue’ has occurred time and again). The reason for this, is that we can’t act on the past and taking into account our past failures has us focusing on the wrong things. Mainly it has us focusing on our mistakes and not what we plan on doing to change our latest mistake (notice mistake – one, not mistakes).
Missing the gym because you’re physically exhausted on a Monday night does not mean that you are a failure. If you were to think so, then you are more apt to not only stop going to the gym short-term, but possibly lose motivation for a much longer period of time. Using Universal explanations for specific instances is a close cousin to the All or Nothing, but can have longer lasting effects.
The best way to undermine this mindset is to remember Abraham Lincoln’s quote, “The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time,” and then start your next day strong.
What’s starting your day strong? It’s starting your day with the best way you know how to A – give you energy and B – that sets you up for success on the things that you want to achieve.
Some people feel great when if they wake up, go outside, take some fresh air and walk a little. Others need to hit the snooze 5 times and lay there a little before moving. Either method is fine, as long as it gives you the most energy throughout the day.
What sets you up for success, is also unique to you. Typically we have certain triggers that can send us down a spiraling loop of failure and regret for the whole day. If it’s to work out in the morning, we don’t go to bed early enough at night and fail to wake up at the time we want. Instead of letting the time stand in your way, start with just a 5-minute circuit in your house.
If you’re dead set on going to the gym though, make sure that you have your bag with workout clothes ready for the morning. Make sure you have your organic apple ready to eat and water to drink as you stumble your way out the door with your clothes for the day. This way, all you have to do is get up and go.
The bottom line though is to live in reality. This means not making things worst than they really are. It also means focusing on the one aspect you can control – what you’re doing now. By doing so, you give yourself the opportunity to take back the power over your past and stop wasting time trying to predict the future.
This key is being aware of what triggers are holding you back, finding them and taking control over them…
For any questions or comments please email me at John@PersonalResultsTraining.com.